I know family can really suck.
I know they are supposed to support you the most at your weakest moments…but for some unexplainable reason this never happens to a lot of people.
I, Martins am one of such person.
There are times, when I would have weird thoughts and do awkward things but NOT ONE PERSON in my family showed ANY sign of concern whatsoever about the fact that I had these thoughts in the first place!
No one asked if and why I was feeling this way. Not even for once. Ever.
This hurts my heart. A lot.
I have taught myself to depend on the use of certain strategies and techniques to help raise me up (motivate myself) when I am down (sad or discouraged). I am also going to share some of these with you today.
A man has to do what he got to do to survive and get through each stress filled day regardless of his or her present state of mind… whatever the cost! It may even involve you deleting negative family members totally from your life in one way or another!
The members of your family are supposed to be there for you, regardless of the situation, and when they don’t, it can damage you pretty good.
Deleting negative people and negativity from your life is by far one of the best things you can do for your past, present and future self. Seriously!
I have also learned to implement certain “Coping Techniques and Strategies” to make me feel a whole lot better and live each day with more positive vibe around me.
Today, I am going to share part of these helpful things with you so that you can help yourself when YOU feel abused, depressed or rejected.
Who Can You Turn To and What Can You Do To Feel Good?
1: Turn to God
Yes, that is correct. He is the one person that never fails me; I speak to him in prayer and he motivates and pushes me to become the best in whatever I do.
2: Turn to your friends
I turn to my friends (online and offline.) Mainly, I talk to people on Instagram, twitter and Facebook. My social media friends are my newfound “family” and they know just what to say to make me feel better even in my weakest moment.
I occasionally post status updates, tweet and make videos about what’s going on and how I am feeling.
Sometimes when I feel like talking to someone close, I simply message one (or more) of my good friends privately.
My online friends are by far the most awesome people I have ever known in my entire life, even though I only know most of them via the internet (virtually).
3: Ignore your family and remain positive… no matter what
I know this is a really hard thing to do. Fortunately, I have learned a few techniques to help me do this. The one that seems to work best, personally, is the use of positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations are statements that you recite and/or read to yourself every day.
“Affirmations are basically a bunch of positive statements that you repeat daily that changes your current (usually negative) beliefs by affecting into your subconscious (usually making it positive).
Even though these statements might not initially be true, the constant repetition of them eventually makes them a reality!
“As a man thinketh, so is he”
This is a strong yet strange phenomenon, but it is also a truth that has been proven to work in many cases. In a way, it is kind of magical!
How does it work?
When we continue to feed our subconscious mind with good thoughts and imaginary situations that shows our badly desired reality, our mind will begin to subconsciously believe it after some time and begin acting upon it. Our subconscious then makes efforts to make these inner scenarios become same with our already perceived outer reality of life, thus completely changing our personal thought processes.”
4: Rely on yourself and be your own best friend
The truth is: No one truly acts the way we want them to. Let’s us not forget that no one truly knows us like we know ourselves.
That is why you need to learn to be strong and rely strongly on yourself. Learn to be your very own best friend. Make yourself happy (cheer up) when you feel down.
A quick way to doing this is by engaging in activities that you enjoy doing alone, such as writing, reading a book, drawing, watching a movie, taking pictures, playing a video game, etc.
You can take yourself out for a special treat or dinner, pamper yourself in some way (go on a shopping spree, get your hair and nails done, give yourself a “relaxed spa day,” etc.). There are many different things you can do to make yourself feel better.
The key is to treat yourself better than anyone else would treat you!
5: Write out your thoughts
Writing has healing abilities (therapeutic). It helps you to release your positive and negative emotions.
You can buy yourself a journal or diary and write random thoughts in it (either using a pen and paper, your computer, or via a note-taking app on your phone like evernote) or you can do spoken words or write poetry.
You can also write a short story describing your current situation, or simply write how you are feeling towards something or someone. You can write about your day, about what happened to you, what you are doing, about what you did, what you plan to do or you can write about whatever pops into your head.
Just be honest. It will help you speed up the recovery process.
6: Release negative Energy from your life
There are many ways to identify emotions and release negativity from your life.
One of such ways is to remove negative people from your life.
My Best Advice to You
My good and candid advice to you is to do whatever makes you feel better, and if others don’t like it, then tell them “YOU DON’T CARE”. (Sorry, I hardly become rude to people online and offline regardless of what I am going through! But sometimes, to achieve results you NEED to have this attitude!)
Kick them out of your life if you must (this is a very easy thing to do on social media). They don’t know what you are going through. Only YOU do.
Also, use the techniques I explained from the beginning of this post till the end. They really do work.
About the Author
Balogun Owomide has a huge passion for spreading motivation, business and personal finance. I often write on my Europedefences , a finance blog on topics ranging from motivation, startup ideas, to small business financing and loans, business plans, marketing and franchise opportunities. You can reach me on Facebook at Balogun Owomide.
